You see when I am on the sidelines as an observer and more importantly as one who walks alongside people who have shared friendship with me , I feel that it is my responsibility to speak into their life when I feel it is necessary. It isn't about judgement but instead it is about truly caring and perhaps loving that person in order to help them see the choices they are making will result in emotional and spiritual damage. Perhaps the severity of the consequences made by poor choices could be minimalized, and I do feel that if we share the same faith values then it is really a responsibility that I see has fallen to the wayside.
People can rationalize their decisions by voicing that they have been hurt or victimized by those who carry the faith flag. Then they decide to push anything associated with their faith values to the curb and and decide to walk the path that others embrace and say that these choices bring them so much happiness and make them feel valued. They don't even notice how the adversary can cloud their thinking and start them on a path that will be very difficult to abort when their heart and mind speak otherwise.
I feel it is my obligation as a sister in Christ to come alongside an individual and graciously ask what it is that the person hopes to accomplish by the choices they are making. I would ask if they have a peaceful heart and mind about this choice and even a deeper question is whether or not their lifestyle decision is one that honours their Life Leader - Jesus Christ.
In our western culture we like to see our faith as something we dig into when life hits the roadblocks that interrupt our sanity. We call it a faith of convenience. It is never about how much we time we need to spend about living completely and fully for our Lord. We give Him a time slot on Sundays, maybe a midweek Life Group slot and then throw in a few prayers during the week. When it comes to decisions we say we will pray about the choices we make, even though we know that scripture clearly teaches which is the right decision. Really no need to pray about it - He has already spoken. Don't walk that path!
No I am not judging you but I do know the meaning of speaking truth. I will always be one that speaks truth into your life. I am not judging you but I would feel a responsibility to hold you accountable IF you walk the path of a Christ Follower.
I pray that value returns - maybe there will be less heartache if we would ask those we love and " do life with" to hold us accountable. I hope there is a person of peace in your life that can speak truth. They are valuable and a true friend. Remember they are not judging you but instead will hold you accountable and then you can be truly accountable to the One who is the only one worth to judge.