A leader I respect in business is one that leads with assertiveness, but with the input of those around them. They care about other people. Their ideas, their comments and even the negative viewpoint could be shared without fear of being devalued. Leading with assertion requires a strong but soft person who understands the art of communication and better yet listening.
When you work with your clients or staff team you lead from your strengths not your insecurities. The art of listening is one that takes skill, time and patience. You can agree to disagree and still get the job done where all parties are smiling!
I have to come realize that the only benefit of enountering a very aggressive person is that I am incredibly thankful that this is not something I want to aspire to or even desire. I hope that at the end of the day that everyone I encountered would see that I can lead, I can listen and I can follow.
Leadership is a privilege and one that desires a heart of humilty and servanthood. Perhaps ask your staff if they would see you as an assertive person or an aggressive person as their leader? Reality checkpoints are always healthy.