Why have the healthy churches failed to notice those who are struggling?
I don't know the answer to that question but I am burdened to think that there needs to be a better way to walk alongside a pastor who is hurting, through partnering with someone who is healthier and stronger and has an outstretched hand to pull their fellow leader out of the valley. We have glamorized reaching out to those in foreign countries while all around us huge needs are apparent and I think it is time that we stop wearing blinders to the needs on our own turf. I am not saying that it is wrong to help leaders in Africa or South America but not without taking notice of the pastor down the street or next city or state or province.
One of the sad aspects of church ministry involves the departure of someone on a church leadership team. I have witnessed the lack of empathy for someone once they walk away from their desk in a church to go on to the next chapter. No phone calls, follow up by other staff people who used to be their close colleagues. No elders following up, no friendly coffee meetings. It is what I call a "church amputee". It really causes me deep distress to see this happen in the church community. In the business world, former workers and colleagues still keep up a friendship and network but time and time again I see churches abandon those who they once employed.
As a coach, I would like to apologize for the behaviour of our churches. I am so sorry you are suffering in silence but know that there is one person who still sees you and loves you beyond words. Our Lord still values you, your work, your strengths and He created a masterpiece in you. I do believe that new chapters can begin, that the valley and transition you are in is temporary. You can move forward and you will lead stronger than you ever did before! I am living proof.