They continue on in relationships and environments which are destructive because no one cared enough to speak truth into their lives. For some reason we have grown to see truth as a negative part of our culture. It might make us feel guilty or cause us to have regrets and yet we never want to acknowledge that the fallout from not speaking truth, will be much greater and cause deeper scarring.
Truth speaking comes from a realtionship built on trust. When people who know you well ask if they can speak into your life, I would suggest you listen. They care about you, your decisions and your consequences, and perhaps want to spare you pain and unnnecessary hurt by sharing what they see as helpful information. I know from experience that when people who are wiser, well respected in my innner circle, speak into my life... I listen... with both ears. I don't question their reason for speaking truth, I embrace it. I ponder what they have raised and then they allow me to question or dig deeper. To me speaking truth provides freedom. It is a huge comfort to know that I am being real, being accountable to others and to God about the happenings in my life. Hiding from the truth has never brought anything positive into my life.
Coaching allows the client to hear truth in their own conversations. When I ask clients questions, an awareness is given to the truth that only they can know. They start to re-examine their thinking, their feelings and their values. When the coach can repeat the truth they have just spoken it is a huge awakening of their own reality. My husband loves the line" reality is your friend". I would probably add " true reality is your friend". I hope today you speak truthfully to those around you, in a caring supportive environment. Not one to cast judgment but instead to empower others with the truth that will set them free!