I live in an area that is saturated with churches. Churches of different denominations, sizes, styles and locations. Many people are church gypsies and move from church to church in search of the right "fit". Not sure what it is they are looking for and yet still searching for the place to belong.
We have changed churches ourselves. Once after I resigned from a full time position on a church staff. Needed the time to just detach and be an unknown and just soak up His presence. This past 18 mths we have been attending a new church home and tomorrow we will meet with one of the pastors to say
we want to be part of this community and be stakeholders in what it represents.
I am wondering if the reason people are always looking for a new place to belong is because they have made the whole church experience about themselves. It is more about the "I" in this seeking experience. How will I enjoy the teaching, the style of worship, the smaller life group setting and what will I benefit? I am beginning to think that the root cause of our dissatisfaction is our feeling about entitlement and the need to walk away with a feel good feeling when we gather together. No one wants to walk away feeling challenged, accountable, maybe even convicted and unsettled in their thinking. They don't really want to serve others - self serve mentality has infiltrated our places of worship. Don't infringe on my holiday weekends, my summer plans, or Saturday night entertainment. I don't do early mornings. Sound familiar? I have seen it and sounds judgemental ,but it is prevalent in the demographic that follows behind me.
To me it is not about the location, the size, the programs, the staff size etc. It is all about one thing and that is life change. You see I haven't decided to join this church because of what I can get from it. I want to be part of a group of people who are all about shaping lives for the Kingdom. Nothing else matters.
If people are not entering into a true sincere relationship with their Creator and deciding to allow Him to walk through life as their master then it doesn't interest me. I feel the root cause of why people are unhappy is because they have made their worship experience all about themselves.
Times of worship are not times to just connect with people. Worship is about giving back ... not about taking away. We gather together to give express our gratitude, praising Him for what He is doing and continues to do in our life. We praise Him for the good, the bad and even the ugly. We waste so much time debating topic, music styles, ways to engage people, and instead we have lost the root cause of why He has called us to gather together.
Unhealthy roots don't survive the storms in life, they just get blown away and
the cool place to meet, the funky music, the acquaintances won't even be on your radar when your world comes crashing down. You won't be debating anything. So I would suggest you start looking at your motives of why you attend your church. The storms are getting stronger, more violent and leaving carnage and I just pray that you are digging deep into the Kindgom to embrace the One who will keep you .